For one thing, giving her oral sex can be a. There's something that can be incredibly powerful about vibrators made purposefully for couple play. Wrong — and this may hurt to hear, but it's kind of selfish. For more Bustle content, check out our podcast. If the numbers are low, I have to say: You and are your partner are missing out.
Take things slow Once you make it to her clit and vagina, gently lick all around. Say a little prayer For those feeling nervous about performing oral sex, it may help to send up a prayer — and try the praying position first. Let her push and grind against your flat, still tongue — take it all in — and then spring back with a series of fast vertical and diagonal tongue strokes. Use these tips to guide your partner to giving the best oral ever. Now I love that position, too! A woman's mount, meanwhile, is the center of the pubic bone, where there is a slight cradle into which your mount naturally fits. From being surprised to feeling appreciated — it's not only about the actual things you do with your tongue and fingers but how you help her stop thinking and start feeling. And to make matters worse, a lot of us are too embarrassed to call the shots and guide someone when they are down there.
As adults, we may round the bases much faster than our partners would like, so it's important to stop, take a minute and remember all those old-fashioned ways you got turned on before we rushed to sex on the third date. You need to be able to tell her what your desires are, and to ask what hers are. Though it's unlikely, you want to make sure you don't overstimulate the clitoral head, which could cause your partner to have a very painful — and less erotic — experience. Think of it more as a meal you're devouring and less about cleaning your plate. Focus On The Moment One thing to remember is that for many women, oral sex can be much more satisfying than penetrative sex.
Check out on developing your sexual communication skills. Carlee Ranger If you're having trouble multitasking during sex going at her from behind while massaging her clitoris, for example — this might be a good option for you, especially if you can maintain your erection the whole time. As I write in The Cliterate Male, you should never assume your partner is as excited as you are. Why the expert says this is hot: Remember the time before you started having sex when you were still at the makeout stage? She can do this fully clothed, or she can do this partially clothed, or she can do this naked. When you're unafraid to involve all of these sexy limbs capable of producing , that's when your sex gets hotter. Every single body part is nitpicked to death. Books are an easy way to jump-start your own sex ed.
This will help build up anticipation, making her squirm for more as you prepare to really impress her. Once you've reached a certain rhythm, try mixing things up though you should remain mindful of how she's responding to your touch; if she's finding a specific rhythm or touch particularly pleasurable, she may feel frustrated if you suddenly change course. They often prefer a warming-up period in order to become physically and psychologically aroused, which, in turn, makes it easier for them to experience pain-free sex and, perhaps, even reach orgasm s. Don't Completely Suck Don't just suck — literally or figuratively. Don't Give Up Most guys won't finish immediately when a partner is going down on them, and women are no different — it might take longer than just a minute or two to get your partner off.
Tell her how much it turns you on to hear her moans. You can use it during intercourse as an added stimulation to her G-spot and clitoris, or with oral sex. While not all women can orgasm from G-spot stimulation, we can give you tips to navigate the area and see how she responds. Simply insert one side of it into her vagina and let the other side vibrate on top. Her pleasure should be important to you simply because you want her to feel good, not because you want to boost your ego.
What's most important while giving her oral sex is that you remain mindful of how she's responding to you. If you want to be a good partner to women, you should respect the fact that there are big differences in the ways men and women feel desire, get aroused, and experience pleasure. For example, you may wonder , when you can be ready for sex at the drop of a hat. Even worse, they're not inclined to learn how to operate with their mouth, and instead, think that repetitive, jack-hammer-like sex will be the ticket to get us to orgasm. And if she happens to finish on you while you're still going down on her, make a point to tell her exactly how much that turned you on, why she is incredibly sexy in your eyes and how you can't wait to do that again and again. Let women make their own decisions, and respect their choices. Oral sex for women is a completely different beast than it is for men.
For more info, read on to find out what women want when it comes to oral sex — straight from them. Oral sex is like that too, and it's mostly about trial and error: does she like it when I apply pressure here but not there? Use your lips to kiss her most intimate parts, alternating those particular kisses with smooches on her thighs. It'll likely take her a while to get in the rind mindset in the first place. No, mind-blowing oral sex requires some actual technique. There's no one-size-fits-all solution here, so communication is 100% key.
I love talking about the nitty-gritty, but I welcome the opportunity to talk about larger topics, too. Let her know that the way she tastes and smells turns you on. Instead of circling your tongue to find her sweet spot or mindlessly fingering her until she pushes you on her to begin sex, try something new: spread her wider and see how she reacts. Open, honest communication is one of the pillars of fantastic sex. But while you might get a little trigger happy when you begin using a vibrator on your girlfriend for the first time boys will like their toys, right? Check out some books about or. This is a point that I bring up time and time again.